Sleep training fail

I haven't been blogging because I have been a zombie. Seriously walking dead. we decided to get the babe out of our bed starting Saturday. it has been some of the saddest days of my life. I cried with him for 3 days straight. we moved his crib into the walk in closet in our bathroom ( since we are in a one bedroom apartment). We could easy control " the sun" in there and used a fan for white noise. We used a book called sleepyplanet as our guide. It all made good sense but I couldn't follow through. he was alone in a dark closet crying til he fell asleep, over an hour each nap and bedtime. The book said give it 5 days, I got to 3. It is torture. it felt so unnatural. he loves the family bed. And we were never actually losing sleep before! The kid sleeps 12 hours at night with us. Id say thats lucky. but the sleep training is so rigid i got about 4 hours a night. we were all so unhappy we said better luck next time. when we finally get to our Utah place, maybe we will try it out again. how do other moms do it?!?